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Zinell Johnson (4 дня назад)
Thank you, thank you,thank you so much for your help.
Jesverlee Gaming (6 дней назад)
My boyfriend always disappear at night since back to his country
Stacey Swope (16 дней назад)
What about when a man pulls away bc he feels unsafe with intimacy? He shuts down to feel safe and protect himself and chooses to be alone. I have an ex who been like this for months, not ready to trust in us and be vulnerable again but unwilling to move on with anyone else. Go no contact, see him on his terms or walk??
TheRoomNumber (17 дней назад)
I don't know how many videos are out that that tell men to act mature and communicate their needs. But there are lot of videos telling women "that she has to have the poise to understand men will disappear and you will understand it". Ridiculous expectation.
Live india (21 день назад)
I am not agree to chase someone in life, yeah u can findout wid other sources that he/she is doing gud or not... Rather then being trapped in emotions, nd in curiosity, and madness.. Sometimes people want something else, they play nice wid u, and also they observed you, if they think that they unable to get wht they want from u, they will move away, nd remember time doesn't matter, whthr u r staying together from a decade or from your childhood.. And some time they play such mind games to trap u emotionally, where you just becm mad, nd u start thinking about that person, and thats wht they want to hit you on that time, and later when they feel now it's time to hit they cmout and presenting a fake story
Marcia Jones (26 дней назад)
I have been dating a guy, he deliberately gives me no compliments, not wanting to commit, I'm out of there
Adriana Pitt (27 дней назад)
I really liked this video.... I met a guy online the other day and we chatted for a long time and then both exchanged numbers....he told me that he felt a strong connection and that he wanted to keep texted and also talk at some point.... My question to Clayton is how many days do I go before I text him if I dont hear from him? Im trying to think positive cause of our first initial conversation
Maria Makinen (27 дней назад)
He may find it hard to hear. Due to distance.?
Mariah (1 месяц назад)
I’m sorry I’m getting from this video that as women we’re just supposed to be accepting of inconsistency. Rightttttt yeah no.
Lincy Doelah (1 месяц назад)
There is only one thing I can say as a woman, is that I should've said goodbye earlier....
Clayton Olson Coaching (1 месяц назад)
in another video that is directed toward men, not women.
Indio Moustafa (1 месяц назад)
How about you don't teach women how to manipulate men but instead accept that you can't always have everything you want?
Mary Moon86 (1 месяц назад)
He ghosted me coz of a new woman damn I don’t like this we didn’t have any problems like nothing at all everything seems perfect and magical just to end up like this he left me hanging alone here wtf i goin on with that mind this is just so unreal (where in a getting to know part with intimacy)any piece of some good advice please ive been doing all advice to act natural act like i dont care I tried all of em but at the end of the day found myself crying to sleep cant stand cuz everyday im seeing them right in front of me so how in the world i can move on easily.. any comments i will appreciate thanks
Catherine Crow (1 месяц назад)
Fantastic !!!
Nia Perry-Richardson (1 месяц назад)
Hi Clayson, I think your advice is great and I am at the point where I recognize and accept that men pulling away within a committed relationship is natural and doesn't mean there's anything wrong. However, what I don't know is how t react to a man when you're in his presence AND he needs space. When my current boyfriend needs space, i leave him be as in I go back to my apartment. I don't ignore him meaning I am receptive when he comes back around but I let him do his thing. However, this is easy because we don't live together. When I finally move in with a man, how do I give him space while being in the same house as him? I have noticed that when my boyfriend pulls away, I get upset, and I leave rather than try to talk to him about it (that only made him close up more). But in a marriage, I won't be leaving at those moments but I also don't want to chase him. If anyone else has an answer for me, please feel free to respond.
annamariaiwsyfina karakaksidoy (1 месяц назад)
sorry but the title is irrelevant to the context and it makes no sense, and from anyone's experience, no guy who is interested in a woman would pull away unless he had second thoughts
J Marasigan (1 месяц назад)
Great topic!!
Lilli R (1 месяц назад)
Lol, better not binge watch these videos , just get on with your everyday life and if/when he decides to re-appear, ✋!! now its to late, shed my tears I don't have time for mind games. Both men and women regardless of age should learn to talk, if a man needs to re-think, get a perspective as to whether he truly loves you and wants to continue courting you etc, better he tell you "I need to have some space to clear my mind" I have some things going on. Funny, because just as you were planning to see each other, when you were expecting to see him he just Zzoom.........disappears, what is this shit. ??? Immaturity, lack of decency thats what this is, women should not have to cater to nor put up with this behaviour. Men, if you are reading this be upfront!! The woman will have more respect by you being honest than taking off into space and not saying why, its the same as cheating in a relationship, if you're not happy say so and take a break then go off and date your arse off with other women. If a man has no real intentions with a woman, you need to let her go, NOT BY GHOSTING HER, BUT BY TELLING HER. When a man just evaperates from your life suddenly, it simply means he is chasing other skirts, looking for better options while keeping you exasperated and confused as to what went wrong. Nothing!! Its the mans doing, his lose if he thinks he can find a better offer, at the end of the day its all the same the sandwich gets stale after you've taken a couple of bites and left it on the plate. If you both had a connection and discussed future plans, then this behaviour has no room for excuse. Dont ever disrespect a lover by disengaging, you'd rather have a disagreement than be ghosted, just when you thought things were going well. This is blastered stupidness and immaturity. The word "ghosting" never existed before 15yrs ago what a lame excuse this generation does in relationships of today, dickheads!!!
A R (1 месяц назад)
How exactly do you suggest the woman would show that she's okay with the pulling away? Because I'm thinking I'm ghost if I've been with him a number of months and then he wants to pull away!
A R (1 месяц назад)
So what I'm saying is I'm ready to just quit but I really do like this man. So before I give up totally how do I show that I'm okay with him pulling away. If he's pulling away because his feelings are just too overwhelming for him and I kind of feel that might be the case but I don't like the back and forth. And he has told me that he loves me. And he has expressed that he could see a future with me.
Clayton Olson Coaching (1 месяц назад)
Ayanna Rearden if you’re not okay with it, don’t try and show that you are. Ghosting is very different than a guy pulling back a bit because he needs space.
Katie Starling (1 месяц назад)
After a year and a half of long distance seeing this person and talking every day, he just fell off. Barely texts and is dismissive with his responses. He said everything is fine and I shouldn't worry but I do. I should just leave him alone but I ask if he is sure it's ok, and I think I push him further away but I'm so depressed and full of anxiety about it. I don't want to make it worse but I need an explanation or reassurance. What do I do?
Priscyla Mello (1 месяц назад)
Today is my birthday and he disappeared for 3 weeks. He wont send me wishes 😕 ( and he disappeared because I went out “without telling him” by the way, he is not my boyfriend, just someone who dates me )
ggg 37 (2 месяца назад)
It’s so hard to pinpoint the exact reason without knowing the situation.
Lelanie van Heerden (2 месяца назад)
I have a better chance dating an alien!! 👽👾🤔🤔🤔
J B (2 месяца назад)
What if it's the other way around. I pulled away and broke up with him. What then? Who does the no contact. Is it me or him? Please let me know.
April McPherson (2 месяца назад)
My ex bf said he didn’t want anything to do with me then disappeared but he Loved with a capital L but I think he was flirting with other girls and we only dated for about a week and I think he got a girls number and he refused to hug me around them and then he said he was gonna quickly rid his skate board around the block and it took him almost half an hour so I think he went after the girls I miss him tho but my other ex asked my out last night so he lost his chance and if he appears some were then we can only be friends wich we were NEVER friends only bf and gf I LOVED him tho😶😶😶😶idk i should be happy or sad cause I love both of them.....
amanda mcdonagh (2 месяца назад)
Mine can't read or write . I just let him ring me
Helen Nilsson Pettersson (2 месяца назад)
Wow, I didn't know that men had/needs this kind of behavior. Thank you for the knowledge☺ I appreciate it a lot💖
Elsie Jean (2 месяца назад)
I wish I lived a century or two ago where people were so clear about their feelings and not playing stupid games like this 😑😑😑😑😑😑
KatieWoah24! (2 месяца назад)
Sona woman should show up and be poised while a man ghosts? Nah.
Lizzy Darcy (2 месяца назад)
I actually used the specific phrase on this video and it really work... Was able to have an open and honest conversation. It didn't lead to a rekindle but it helped me get the answers l needed to move on. Thank you for the great advice!
Cara West (2 месяца назад)
Thank you. Very much needed to hear this right now. ❤️
The Daily Stress (2 месяца назад)
I’m just going to stay single lol
Holly Golightly (2 месяца назад)
If he disappears or ghosts you, let his ass stay in the afterlife. Why does it even need to be said. An interested man don't leave you
Cecilia Wangari (2 месяца назад)
If someone is stupid enough to leave you b smart enough to let him or her go...hahaa
yulia fomina (2 месяца назад)
Okay I have a scenario for you. I have met this guy online and we had a truly good connection. I really enjoyed talking to him and could not wait to meet him. Last week we finally met as we also live in totally different cities. We had an amazing conversation and he mentioned and made it pretty clear he liked me a lot. I tried to be pretty open and show to him that my attraction to him was same and equal. I would never chase anyone as I believe when they want me they will come to me. After we parted he messaged me for a day but now he is not messaged me at all and before we stopped talking his messages we pretty dry. I totally agree that maybe he did not like me as much but why can’t he just say as the day before he was saying he would like to spend more time with me next time. I am so confused 🤷‍♀️ I totally agree that sometimes things could get in a way but I have my life too and I simple can not wait for someone to acknowledge I mean something to them forever. I need to build my life too. I don’t agree with any sort of games. He is 38 and I am 31. We are adults.
Sunny Chic (2 месяца назад)
I am a woman and the man I grew to love deeply let me come and go as I needed, as that’s where I am right now I’m life. Not to be with others but that’s what worked for me emotionally at this point with everything in my life. This freedom we both gave each other allowed a true real alive love to blossom because it never came from a place of “should” or “guilt.” Not what everyone is looking for but everyone is different. Some look at relationships as part of their spiritual journey more—just adding another perspective. Communication is helpful though in this process and something we work on gently together by learning to be authentic without being controlling
oluk kucni (2 месяца назад)
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Laura Barzano (2 месяца назад)
Such good stuff!!
julsca (2 месяца назад)
say what though?
Sharron Diack (2 месяца назад)
THANKU FOR THIS IMFORMATION
BeastySteven200 lol (2 месяца назад)
PHENOMENAL!
Anabelle Angel (2 месяца назад)
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Sharon Fleming (3 месяца назад)
That helped so much thank you
taliabear2010 (3 месяца назад)
This is STUPID!!! A guy should expect to lose the woman he’s interested in If he ghosts her with NO explanation!! That’s common sense! I’m sick of these videos putting all the burden on the woman to understand this immature behavior and giving guys the ok to not engage in BASIC communication and have BASIC emotional intelligence!!
duckie07100 (3 месяца назад)
I loved a guy who always used for disappear or run away because he couldn't handle a discussion even if it was about fix things, honestly I got tired of him and his attitude, I cried too much for his behavior etc come on girls you deserve someone who never run away like a little girl, sorry but I think that say too much about the love he feels for you! Don't let someone do this to you please!
Roots (3 месяца назад)
Part of showing you're high value is understanding that guys come in and out. Another part is making sure your own needs get met in your relationship. e.g. quality time... It can be tough to reconcile these two.
sandra fabian (3 месяца назад)
Not that I assume, but when a man pulls away, by the third or fourth of disappearance, I delete their number. It's very unlikely that a man ghosts because he's "scared" or can't handle his feelings." That line is nothing but deception. When a man goes a few days without not even texting you, he's not interested, period!
Lee Bree (3 месяца назад)
Totally stupid these guys dont know
Gratitude Life (3 месяца назад)
Glad i got to this video. I’m in a LDR FOR 7 months. He disappears from time to time for a day or maybe 2! I nudge him saying that I miss him or if he is ok . Sometimes I get little defensive. He once told me that I need to ask him what happens why he didn’t show up for a chat after I told him that if he doesn’t want to be in the relationship , he should tell me So I would not be a burden to him . Now I will give him 2 day space , but at this time of our relationship he should communicate to me that he won’t be available for shuck and such time instead of having me guessing and make assumption. I is hard enough to not see him and not knowing why he is not responding to messages. I will give him another try to see how he is going to act when he disappears and I don’t ask him to call me back .
Jorge Reyes (3 месяца назад)
Has anyone here wondered if the guy has pulled away because he felt the woman was PLAYING GAMES with him???....
TheUnknown (3 месяца назад)
Well said
M V (3 месяца назад)
Usually men pull away because the man is not able to be honest and that he feels unworthy of that connection. Men usually pulls away because of insecurity
Ann Harrison (4 месяца назад)
Bollocks!!!!! It's just bad manners, and I'd just let him walk away. If he's not got the balls to say what's on his mind then for me, there is no coming back - NEXT!!!!!
samantha novaes (4 месяца назад)
Life goes on ! next please !
Xylene Vera (4 месяца назад)
If he is not responding anymore it means he dont like a girl or he doesnt see a girl as his potential pattern. Move on.
Sun Shine (4 месяца назад)
Awesome! Very much needed. Thank you!
Amanda King (4 месяца назад)
I’ll be 62 next month and I lost my husband tragically 4 yrs ago after 35 yrs together. Started seeing a guy I met on Facebook and I knew he had a girlfriend and he said he had another lady too. He also said he was greedy. I wasn’t looking for a man period, just friends. He wanted sex and kinky fifty shades of grey sex. I said hell no. He got mad. Early on in dating after first sexual encounter, I didn’t hear from him for a week until I texted him. I’ve almost always had to reach out to him and then we’d talk but only about sex fantasies. I tried to cut off things and he’d say, oh no I was busy. Finally the 5th time around I sent him a nice email and said goodbye. He texts, C u soon. Duh?? I sent another email and cussed him smooth out because he lied to me about going out of town to a shoe store when he was with his girlfriend which I knew of. She went to police and now we had a mess. Sooo done with men for a while. This video is okay, but I’m too old for bullshit. I need a REAL MAN. I’m not your second choice; not an option; and I’m damn sure not gonna be your standby piece.
Telki 537fb (4 месяца назад)
Even in the ancient cultures wise women would tell the younger women that when their man pulls away, just let him be alone.!! He needs to do this for a while. Its just part of his nature to do this thing. So yeah its universal for guys of all cultures to do this. Accept it ladies you'll be better off for understanding this. It's just the way men are. But that doesn't mean they don't care.
chahat padda (4 месяца назад)
This. Is. Bunch. Of. Bullshit.
chahat padda (4 месяца назад)
Soooo....a guy I was dating has stopped texting for a week! and he responds quickly but in a neutral tone. what do you think?
A M (4 месяца назад)
Why are guys such pussies and lazy and it's all about them
Clayton Olson Coaching (4 месяца назад)
A M lol bye.
A M (4 месяца назад)
Oh and I see my other posts are deleted. 😀
A M (4 месяца назад)
Clayton Olson Coaching maybe if your channel did not make out men to the ones to be catered to and that women have to do all the work I would not be so "inspired". Thank u for proving my point, like I said I never leave these kinds of responses. But your vid here does NOTHING to help women, but rather continue to make it seem like men have no responsibility. As for your channel, no worries I do not plan on wasting my time with this b.s. u tube
Clayton Olson Coaching (4 месяца назад)
A M it makes sense that you would experience men as “pussies” given the amount of aggression this YouTube video is inspiring in you. Look at the common denominator in your struggles. It’s not men. It’s you. If you need to leave unconscious and offensive remarks, don’t do it on my channel.
Maria Vint (4 месяца назад)
Awesome! I'm going through the same thing now. Now I know it's not because he is interested with someone else but getting himself together emotionally. He answers my texts and is friendly so there's nothing wrong there, our relationship is three months old....wow!
Leah Christine (4 месяца назад)
ghost me... cya!
Z Abd (5 месяцев назад)
Wow
LindaLou From Wyoming (5 месяцев назад)
So, why is it just about the man, always? What about how the woman feels when the man does this for no reason out of the blue? This tells the women to accept such behavior and that they are not worthy of treatment from a man who will be mature enough to just talk to her and be supportive of the relationship, which belongs to both parties. Not just him or to her. Men just sound so fucked up all the time! How do they go to war and make the right decisions and why should we vote for them in office and then have confidence they can DO the jobs? I call bull shit.
Selena Lucia (5 месяцев назад)
I pull away-major problem. I try not to and manage most of the time but I do when I get scared of my own feelings.
Yesi Flores (5 месяцев назад)
What about when he does this and you're already living together with kids?!🤔
OfficialFNXtina (5 месяцев назад)
True.
Kathy C. (5 месяцев назад)
I love how you worded and broke down the man’s mind set once a connection has been established. I have been talking to a guy for 3 weeks and I have started to feel a shift on his end where his communication is getting less and less. I feel this is perfect timing as I am leaving for 3 weeks to leave the country, but this video helps me to understand and know how to support him in this process and make our connection stronger.
Robin (5 месяцев назад)
This guy is the greatest at what he does .
Mari Lou (5 месяцев назад)
Thanks..it really hurt to be abandoned..he just disappear without any word..even good bye..until now still enduring the pain that he cause...
M Gordan (5 месяцев назад)
What is difference in pulling away and ghosting
Ty (2 месяца назад)
ghosting would be if all communication stops with no explanation, pulling away there would still be communication but not at the same rate. This video is clearly not about ghosting.
arianna boscolo (5 месяцев назад)
Instead you should teach men to grow some balls
arianna boscolo (5 месяцев назад)
I'm sorry but I totally disagree. I've seen many man not doing this push pull as u call it, simply because they are mature and grounded man, with whom a woman feels very secure and stable with. On the other hand, man that push pull are just simply not man yet. You shouldn't in courage women to accept this type of behaviour from man as the norm, and furthermore, teach women to put up with this behaviour and even be understandable and nice towards it. Yeah right u just need a mama don't you? Grow up will you?
MKS_2 (5 месяцев назад)
Thank you......💃
lee curtis (5 месяцев назад)
I'm not into having a guy who acts like a hunter wanting to catch it's trophy
lee curtis (5 месяцев назад)
Now, he's posting love songs on FB. I don't know if it's towards me or some other woman.
lee curtis (5 месяцев назад)
If a man ignores me, I give it right back. We got into an argument on FB last fall. I told him off and he told me off. I told him I was going to quit him on FB. He said to go ahead. I noticed he left his on-line chat thing open. Probably wondering if I would do it and I did. A couple months later, he sent me a friend request. He drives me nuts. He sometimes starts a chat with me as friends and then he disappears. I don't chase him. I can live just fine on my own and have for years. So is he is wishy washy, the hell with him. Let him do the running. He always starts the chat and I just reply
Mary Ducot (5 месяцев назад)
Thank you, I understand him now, he does this to me and leave me hanging, but if this jerk does not greet me on my birthday, April 28th 2018... we're done. ive had enough.
Jesus Saves (6 месяцев назад)
If he ghosted 👻💫 you, and your heart still remains at peace, even though you don't know why he ghosted you, praise God 🙌😀 that he disappeared from your life beautiful lady! God knows best! 👍💯♥
lacollins51 (6 месяцев назад)
If he pulls away or disappears...without an explanation. That’s rude & inconsiderate, not biology! No excuses..... NEXT, lol
Green Tea (6 месяцев назад)
Wow I wish I'd known that a year ago! My sweetheart displayed these things and I became annoyed and hurt, resulting in lost love.....
Ladydi (6 месяцев назад)
How many times is it acceptable to fade in or out?
Lori (6 месяцев назад)
The pulling away and coming back is exhausting. I've been through this twice with one guy. Just keep busy and live your life. If he comes back just watch his actions and see what he does. And remember it's their stuff so don't take it personally.
Lori Owens (6 месяцев назад)
If he is fake claims he likes me but says I'm the n word he better never say he likes me again because he is stupid.
Duke (6 месяцев назад)
If he disappears? I didn't know that was even an option! You mean a woman will still stay with me if I do that and this is the video showing them how to respond? I'm dating a girl now and I feel like if I disappeared for even a second I would lose her and it causes me a lot of anxiety and makes me not free to be myself. Heck, if I could leave for a bit and come back I'd feel a lot better. Maybe woman just need to realize this is what some guys need in order to think things through.
Little Tangerine (6 месяцев назад)
It's okay to give men space for two or three days. But longer than that? Just excuses.
Hazel Pottage (6 месяцев назад)
I've been with my boyfriend for six years we both have aspergers syndrome. My boyfriend is saying that we are not seeing enough of each other. Which is right we have been seeing less and less of each other. However he is ignoring a lot of messages that I send him. And he is only phoning me whenever it suits him. He phoned me last night but he was not making any scence because he was so tired that he was falling asleep whilst talking to me. I ended up putting the phone down on him because he fell asleep whilst trying to talk to me. After my messaging him 4 times between last night and now he has sent me a text to say I put the phone down on him and a sad face on the message. Last night after having no choice but to put the phone down I messaged him and apologised for putting the phone down and I explained why I did it. But now he is upset with me for what I did. It seems over recent weeks he keeps saying soon we won't have a relationship because we are not talking to or seeing each other. But then he Olney seems to want to be in touch with me when it suits him. I need to know where I stand with him and I need some guidance about how much and when to contact him. Thank you Hazel
Because I Care (6 месяцев назад)
Communication is top priority in a relationship from the beginning. I understand what you mean about a man pulling away in order to process and gain perspective. However, this phase is very confusing. You advise women to be understanding and patient while a man goes back and forth. I agree with that to a certain extent. However, men should be willing to explain how they're feeling, willing to talk about why they are confused (for clarification) and ask his dating partner for her patience. Will you please advise men of this? Men also become confused when a woman fades in and out of contact. We do it for the same reasons. The male interpretation is that we're playing games, stringing them along, seeing other men. Women also need to communicate her feelings, that she needs space, time to think, etc. It would be easier if they had some understanding that it's usually not personal. Will you advise men of this so that they understand we're not simply evil monsters pulling on their heartstrings?
r han (6 месяцев назад)
Unfortunately, although not reacting to someone pulling away might fit into the idea of a woman as having too much self-worth to let it bother her, this is also the reaction that these guys are hoping for, because it makes it so much easier for them to slither away.  They will never learn to stop this rude and cowardly behaviour if there are no negative consequences for them.
Noise Electric (6 месяцев назад)
So a woman who “values and respects” herself accepts a guy waffling in and out of her life whenever he pleases? And in turn, a guy “respects” a woman more for putting up with this crap?? The hell kind of rubbish is this?? Any woman who actually values and respects herself will run away immediately from a douchebag who treats her like this. She will NOT accept this as “natural male behavior.” Give me a fvcking break.
Helia Hashemy (6 месяцев назад)
I wish to see this much sooner
pjharriscpa (7 месяцев назад)
If a man stands a woman up that he's been in a relationship with for 6 months in thIs pulling away scenario, is that indicative of his character or just his emotional reset? I'm struggling to understand men. By man I mean 40 something, twice-divorced man.
Lisa Ombre (7 месяцев назад)
It’s sad that a lot of women come online to watch these videos. Just show how there are a lot of stupid and immature men out there. Good luck to all you ladies 💪🏻
francesca simons (7 месяцев назад)
Best play.. MOVE ON...
noga 1 (7 месяцев назад)
i once had two dates with a guy , who made fun of my looks , but i decided to ignore it because i really liked him . at the end of the second date , he told me he would call , but didn't .instead , i called him , and told him i had a great time with him . he said he did too , and again promised to call . that call never came . what a surprise .... my lesson is to not chase a guy , no matter how much i like him . he wants to be with me ? great .he should chase and call etc. he doesn't want to be with me ? that's when i say : next !
noga 1 (7 месяцев назад)
so ? what to say ? you said a lot , when actually you didn't say anything !
Jacque Renee (7 месяцев назад)
Usually it’s bcse there dealing with another woman. But these suckers aren’t going to say it
Lana G (6 дней назад)
I agree with you completely.Someone who cares for you and values you and wants the relationship to work doesn't pull away and play hurtful head games.God bless.
Justice (13 дней назад)
Indio Moustafa yes so true, I realized the guy was not compatible with me nor was ET my type, I’m glad he went back to outer space where he belongs.
なはいきつなや (14 дней назад)
Indio Moustafa how was that necessary. So much negativity
Indio Moustafa (1 месяц назад)
Jacque Renee Or it could be that he realized he can't stand you.
11h11 (7 месяцев назад)
very beautiful insight, just subscribed to your channel. i don't believe I’ve ever been ghosted but i have a tendency to do so. mainly because communication has failed and i have nothing else to say.
Christine Ryan (7 месяцев назад)
pffft who the hell a guy think he is to lead a girl on and then pull away so he can justify his feelings and left her hanging till he got his shit straight.
Elizabeth Dejesus (7 месяцев назад)
I guess I should fraction away whenever I need to find myself?! LOL I dont agree with the second part!

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