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There's a fatal mistake people make when planning a first date…
It was the root of every awkward date you've ever been on, and can actually make you come off as desperate in his eyes.
The solution couldn't be simpler, and it's something you can employ on your very next date!
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ok ok really helphul all those things BUT WHAT YOU DO WHEN TODAY IS YOUR FIRST DATE WITH SOMEONE (realy hot haha) THAT SPEAKS ONLY ENGLISH AND YOU ARE SO BAD IN ENGLISH (wish me good luck people #ohgod )
New Thought exactly my thought. I have only had good experiences with dinner dates as first dates. A bad first date Is going to the cinema or another place like it where you really can't talk freely and get to know each other
Bowling. Hmmm. Ok. How about play some football. Throw the ball around. Do typical guy things. Have fun, run amok in the park. Find a common interest and go with that. Don't focus on trying to win him over, just focus on being best buds. ;)
As a guy who’s dated a lot, take a girl out for coffee first! Not even drinks. Don’t act desperate, be interested, listen to what she has to say, if she is interested she will ask you questions and engage. If she does not engage and seems like she’s uncomfortable then very smoothly end it with some excuse but don’t be rude or even show you are disappointed. Smile make eye contact say your goodbyes (kinda like you would with your bank manager) and move on to the next gal. Also whatever you do DONT ask her if there will another date, or should you call her etc.
Hey I’d like ur guys opinion on something! This guy I really like asked me to go to the movies with him. We had AP bio together last year but we never rly talked until now. Is the movies a good idea? Should I suggest something else and how? We’re both in high school btw.
I have never had a date with someone (im 14 yr lol) and the best first date for me is like meet up having no clue where to go. Ask her where she want to go. For example we go to grab a drink or smth and then we sit on a bench just talk.
This girl and I originally were gonna go out to dinner but she had to cancel because of something. Anyway we ended up just hanging out and going to this hookah bar that’s a half hour away. We talked non stop from the second we met up, I even broke the physical contact barrier right away. All the way to the hookah lounge, it was one of the realest conversations I’ve had. When we got there, she had forgotten her ID but so we ended up going back to her house and smoking a bunch of weed. It was an amazing first date and she was fucking beautiful. I guess the lesson here is be flexible, and don’t let shit ruin the date. Our original plan got fucked up, and the back up plan got fucked up, and we both still had an amazing time:)
I met a woman online and we finally set up a date after about a month of texting and chatting on the phone. We agreed to go see a movie but she wanted to see it at a Hi-Def 3d movie theater. The nearest Hi-Def theater was 30 minutes north of her, she lived 30 minutes north of me so the theater was an hour away from me. So instead of going to the Hi-Def theater, I asked if we could just go to a regular theater nearby. She responded by saying she really wants to see the movie in Hi-Def. I then suggested that I drive to meet her near her place, then she can drive the rest of the way to the Hi-Def theater. She then responded by saying she's been having car problems. It bothered me that she insisted on going to a particular theater but she wasn't willing to drive there/she didn't have a car. I thought us finally meeting in person was the point of the date, not the theater. Needless to say, I backed out of the date. The fact that she was unwilling to compromise really turned me off. I'd like to know what you all think about this.
Matthew sharing great content here! be sure to actually use this rule in your dating life. the one thing that I can add is actually detach you mind from this "pressure" that we all have when it comes to a first date.
I believe that you should spend time just with a person that you value at least at you level and not compromising.
It helps if you use a decent dating website, text and talk on the phone, then you get a real feel for the person. I had a great drinks, dinner, drink date with a guy from outer state. But I think we were both quite attracted to each other which helps.
Funny how every video out there on guys telling us other guys how to get a girl how to go on a first date blah blah blah. And the guy in the video can get any girl just by breathing and then they talk with an accent that girls will give them a baby on the first date. While I'm sitting here looking like a burnt chicken nugget and when í talk it sounds like a dog singing friday by Rebecca Black
another tip i got from a random guy : always go on a first date at noon or afternoon. If you meet in the evening it's way harder to find an escape, because in the afternoon you can still say hey i've got to meet a friend soon, if it doesn't go well. If you go fo drinks at 10 pm what the hell do you have to do at 11pm on a saturday? lol
A guy I met online and I went to dinner for the 1st date. It was fine I think because like you said, unless you already have a connection than stay away from such setting. He was really forthcoming. Seem to know what he wanted and certainly wasted no time planning the date or speakin with me on the phone prior to meetin in person. I think the phone conversations helped ease the awkwardness that most first dates seem to have. Besides that, I think he had a real connection with me and vice versa. I talked with him for hrs upon hrs before meetin. It was a fun time. I enjoyed the conversations. I am from a diverse background as one can tell. I found out he’d visited my country few times in the past so he was a traveler. Quite knowledgeable about my culture etc. all of which helped increased my attraction towards him.
He made reservations weeks ahead which I really love. I’m a bit of wild reserve type; he’s fun to be around, high energy who’s also emotionally available. I love that about him. Lots of common interest between us.
I think we fell off because he was such a planner. And as attractive it may sound, sometimes there was this lack of spontaneity. I was a bit younger then. Well mid twenties. I lack the skills to communicate with a man or tell someone what I wanted from him or her. He did give me his entire wkds if or when he does make plans since am learning this means something to a man 🙄😜. It was never out of the blue. He called me one night after sometimes and said let’s go for a walk. It felt like hallelujah! 😂
We eventually fell off. I think it was the best decision for me afterall. I hope he’s happy and all is well in Netherlands 😉.
why does it look desperate if you have the whole evening free? I never plan two things on the same evening, I don't wanna be like "ah I really like you but my friend comes over in 5 mins so please go." ... I mean of course, it's mostly somebody that I've been chatting to for a while and I kind of know his character by then...
I have an issue. I have a crush on a guy from my gym and he is hot and cold. He still seems open to me and he's tried approaching me several times but I was too shy to say anything. I am now considering talking to him and I'd really like to date him. I don't 'get laid' via weekend booty calls from random homeboys or what not, since I'm pretty conservative on pre-marital sex. He's tried to ignore me several times and many times when I tried to look at him and smile, he would just look away or stare straight at me without hardly any expression and I would then feel uncomfortable and quickly look away. My guess is he does not appear as much in need anymore towards me because he is getting laid, not by a girlfriend, but I think by just booty calls or random girls. That idea really turns me off and though I can't verify it, the thought of this makes me NOT want to DATE him. How do you find a very conservative gentleman who DOES NOT focus on getting laid with different women but is WAITING for the right one and WANTS TO WAIT until he finds the right one? I cannot date guy sluts who aim to get laid every weekend by random women. Its dirty.
This guy is clueless and selfish. First dates are to be enjoyed as much as possible and to show respect to your date. I once took a blind date to her favorite restaurant. I didn't find her the least attractive and knew I would not be going on a second date but made sure she had the very best time. Drinks, appetizers, a main course, dessert, whatever she wanted and I let her take home all the leftovers. She was ecstatic, we laughed all night long and I spared no expense on her, on us. It was a memorable evening but that was it. If you're gonna go on a date, enjoy it as much as possible, after all it's your night out, too but there's reason to be a fuddy duddy and no reason to show your date the utmost respect. Make sure you both have a great time. You never know if you're gonna end up liking the person you go on that first date with nor if it's gonna last a lifetime, so you might as well make the most of every outing until one or both of you decide that it won't continue.
omg no more dinner dates for me seriously. wish i saw this vid before going on my last date which was terrible. We went for korean food and the dinner lasted two hours. Half hour in there were so many awkward silences already and he ordered so much food! Spent lots of time trying to finish everything. We have nothing in common and it was so hard to keep the convo going smh. Imma stick to coffee/ice cream from now on.
Thanks for the advice, Matthew. I'll think of something fun to do next time if the date goes well..
Hey Matt, I got an idea: when woman is on a first date, and she is kind of person who wants a relationship, marriage, and he, as a man, wants sex on that first date, or on whichever date (important is to say the first time he express wish for having sex), she should say (when he start leading to having sex) that she is not a type of a woman who is having sex for one night. That's a test statement! By saying that, she lets him know her standard, and his reaction on that will discover his real intentions. I will use that! What do you think, do you like it?
You see I did something similar, got drinks, went to a museum, got food at a casual place that we agreed to, then got more drinks which was also agreed upon, girl said she had a great time and it was her pleasure coming out. Then she slowly started going cold and has since ghosted me but still keeps an eye on me through social media.... fucken weird