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Eye contact is extremely important and has a big impact on your level of success in social setting, relationships, but also in business. People who know how to maintain a friendly and confident, but not intimidating eye contact have a much higher chance to succeed in any walk of life. The ability to comfortably maintain direct eye contact is a trait of leaders and attractive, confident people.
I made this video, because I know so many people who have problems with eye contact (especially maintaining direct eye contact for a long time). So many people get weirded out when looking into the other person's eyes. The problem is only augmented when the other person happens to be very attractive:)
I am sharing with you a great eye contact trick that can be used anytime, anywhere and by anybody. It is extremely simple, but will make you feel more comfortable and you will appear more confident. I will also tell you about one of the biggest eye contact mistakes people make in the context of dealing with groups of people.
I hope that you will find this video useful on your path to ultra confidence. Please let me know what you think in the comments below. Also, if you like the video please click LIKE and SHARE it with your friends:)
How To break eye contact and where to look and how long we should avoid looking in the person's eye and start looking again..what is the difference when having a conversation with a girl or a woman. How not to look anxious or unconfident and keep looking down which looks very bad and appropriate,I often find girls/woman's feeling very uncomfortable, I feel very uncomfortable too and feels like a cheap person which is I'm not I swear..these days I'm having truoble making eye contact with my peers and neighbours..I just don't know how to break eye contact instead of looking aside and turn my face (which seem like I'm not interested in the conversation) I tend to look down while breaking eye contact..people often feel uncomfortable and try to hide their crotch as if I'm looking at it which in reality I'm not..pls help me get through this problem and give me a solution..I wanna feel more confident when speaking with anybody male or female..I wanna read their expression and feel them and bond a good connection..im tired of looking down I wanna help my head high and look at the world straight in the eye ball..
The problem is how to eye contact, I don't know. how to do it.
I mean look at that eye's but which eye. left or right because
I can't look At the both at the same time and keep switching seems so weied.
I'm an anxious person so making eye contact sucks for me!! What usually helps me cope or to improve is to:
1) take slow steady breaths to calm my anxiety.
2) nod & smile ALWAYS.
3) Let my eyes gaze a little out of focus so its not as intimidating. While looking at persons FOREHEAD or NOSE.
( helpful trick! the person won't notice! he/she thinks your looking directly at their eyes! )
NOTE: Challenge yourself every time your out, its so worth it in the end! Trust Practice makes you more comfortable with eye contact.❤😉
I have seen so many of these gurus claiming this and that. Here is my slant on eye contact and use. I had extreame hearing loss and a blotched Iriadectomy(loss of most of my colored part of one eye(Iris). Overcoming this personal drawback was and still is a sadending, but this resulted in the type"A" supper confident guy i now am. Developed a fitness near addiction that got body looks, and people noticed overall me, instead of just face. Then i studied in school(also 3yrs. college) so i could appear as a confident guy. Sure i've got a Clint Eastwood squint down to a science. Here is my point for this: If your your only wepon in life and social situations boils down to just eye contact, you have cement overshoes, and are waiting to be throw overboard. It's is what you do b/4 and after eye contact that makes your sell to anyone or group. So i admit i'am not a spelling and punctuation freak. READ THE MEANING OF WHAT I HAVE SAID!
I agree - eye contact is just one of many elements. However, since many people had asked me about it I decided to make one video specifically on this topic. This doesnt mean that getting your eye contact handled will solve all the problems of course.
Practice, practice, practice. Anything in this world can be learned. Start small, but practice often. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will start feeling (comes from a guy who had tremendous issues with maintaining the eye contact)
Look, I see your point. Ideally, you want to look people in the eyes and this is what I always do myself. However, this video is not directed at people with regular level of confidence. I made it thinking about all the people who experience extreme social anxiety and for them trying to maintain a strong eye contact may lead to a panic attack.
if you are pure & honest with your meeting concern then you can make eye contact easily, naturally & confidently , without thinking. even if you want to deceive that person , it doesn,t matter , but you need to honest with yourself , then you will be confident
Another trick is to look at the space between the eyes I no longer need to apply it to my everyday conversations but it works and helps you get over I wouldn't consider it anxiety more like a phobia because we're taught it's not polite to stare well I was. While doing this also just control your breathing and you'll find its all in your head (:
Sometimes I don’t even think about it, but, if I’m a bit hungover or stressed I become very self conscious and just want to look away and then I’m aware that when I did they noticed it and so the vicious circle begins...
Great video...But another good trick is.....when people are talking to you, look through them..like for example if they are saying to you "I fixed my sink yesterday"...actually envision them bending down fixing their sink (while they're talking to you)...you ever stared at something but your mind was somewhere else?..kinda like that...( it eases the awkwardness)
a girl 2 tables down I look at she does not look at me even though I look away, then look back at her she does not look back, she looks at me after more than 5 minutes then looks away quickly, the 2nd time she looks at me can I give her a little wave with my hand to let her know I see you? She did not give me a 2nd look should I have done something during her first look
this is the first time this happens with me ..i have a physics teacher her looks make me confused so i began lose my focus and dont feel comfortable when she she looks in my eyes ..when i try to be normal and look in a several places i cant compine between understanding what she says and what im doing ..and by the time i had this problem with the other teachers and then with people ..thats really annoying ..thanks for your vedio im going to try your advices~
I can make eyes contact but maintaining it is problematic if its a conversation that is longer than 10 seconds. I may look away and then look back, and so on and so forth. Distance also makes a difference. If they are close, then I get uncomfortable.
Thanks Jimmy for this inspirational video. By the way I LOVE the way useful and FREE videos posted on YouTube by guys like you, willing to help with no return and putting in so much work to have the vids done, are so often poorly commented, disliked by absolute NERDS that obviously have no other things to do than hating others because they didn't even come close to a single objective in their lives :) They are by themselves a great definition of slowlane beta people, and what we MUST not do in order to make it in our lives ! Thanks to you too haters :)
I work at a job where I must maintain eye contact and lately I find it hard to look at women because they play a lot of games but you sir have made it easy for me to continue I wanna thank you so much. Another reason why I don't look at women is because the bible says turn thine eye from beautiful women. Now I have a good way how to turn my eyes away and it's perfect I'm going to try it today.!
I'm sorry, but watching this video made me extremely anxious and uncomfortable. I think it's a mixture between your metrosexual personality, your facial expressions, and the frequency of your blinking. I hope this doesn't sound too weird.